After love…
23 May, 2010
I think that the future of a relationship is established during the 30 seconds that run after an orgasm. Yes, because it is such a unique moment. It is a time in which we try to recover a sense of self, trying to reconnect with life after a rush of lust. And it is also a moment of solitude, deep solitude. Like dogs that remain attached but ignore each other, back to back, we try to be kind and maybe exchange a word and a kiss, but maybe, deep down, we have nothing to say. And I mean, when there is love, imagine when there isn’t! But maybe we have nothing to say because we are confused. What is this? Is this what we have been told love is? Reconnect the the forever lost half of us? Reconnect to my soul mate? Here? Now?
In those seconds, we can probably recognise the nature of our connection with this “stranger” in our bed. Stranger, yes, because regardless of how long we have chatted or dated before we end up in bed, I think that knowledge begins in bed. And it is only the beginning of a very long process. Knowledge of our vulnerabilities, fears, tendencies, I think happen in bed first.
When those 30 seconds never reconnect us to ourselves and to the other, I think the finale is well known. I think we can try to recreate something ‘special’ during the rest of the time but I think that how things work. And then we start chasing and mending what has possibly never existed. Yes, after love, is just the beginning.
(adm)
